Gottman Method Couples Therapy

Gottman Method Couples Therapy is a structured, goal oriented, scientifically-based therapy that helps couples increase respect, affection, closeness, and nelps couples manage conflict. It helps to generate a better understanding between partners.

 

Interventions are based upon three decades of empirical relationship research from Dr. John and Julie Gottman. Through their research from more than 3,000 couples, they have shown that couples can accomplish making relationship last, become better friends, achieve greater understanding, find more ways to connect and and becom intimate, and create ways to support each another in the future.

Throughout therapy, couples will work on:

  • Building Love Maps: How well do you know your partners inner world, his or her history, worries, stresses, joys and hopes?

  • Sharing Fondness and Admiration: This is where we focus on the amount of affection and respect within the relationship.

  • Turning Towards: Stating your needs, being aware of bids for connection, and responding (turning towards) them.

  • The Positive PerspectiveHelping maintain a positive perspective of the relationship. Developing a positive approach to problem solving and the succeeding in repairing attempts.

  • Managing Conflict: Conflict is natural and has a functional positive aspect in a relationship. That is why we say “manage “conflict rather than “resolve” conflict.

  • Making Life Dreams Come True: Creating an environment that encourages each partner to talk honestly about his or her hopes, values, and aspirations.

  • Creating Shared Meaning: Understand important visions, narratives, myths and metaphors about your relationship.

  • Trust: When partners know that their partner acts and thinks for the best interests and benefit of the other person in the relationship.

  • Commitment: Believing and acting on the knowledge that your relationship with your partner is completely your lifelong journey. 

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